So, I (28F), am being slandered across my socials and I need to just confirm if I am in the wrong.
Context: my ex, J, and I had been together for six years before this whole situation. When I was 25, I inherited my mom’s bungalow. My older sister (39) got the main house and my older brother (32) got two properties that my mom rented. It was decided this was the fairest since my brother got into real estate and my sister was pregnant at the time.
J, who was an amateur carpenter, and I renovated it and he basically let me decorate and organize how I want. Since I would be the one home more and “my systems only work for me”. To his credit, that was and still is true. I have SEVERE OCD.
Four months ago, right before Halloween, J’s mom got evicted. I offered her my spare room with the simple request to follow my house rules: no eating in the bedrooms, no shoes in the house, don’t touch or move anything without telling me, and keep the screens in the windows (the mosquitoes are awful where I live).
She obeyed most rules, but she couldn’t for the life of her leave my stuff alone. My OCD is so bad that I have been in therapy for over a decade for it. It isn’t as bad as it used to be, but I still get upset and uncomfortable when certain spaces are moved around. In the four months she stayed with us, J’s mom had reorganized the kitchen, living room, and even the patio deck. She always said it wasn’t a big deal and the way she did them made more sense. It would drive me mad when I would have to redo my spaces because J refused to tell his mom to stop. This was a fight every few weeks.
For the record, I am a nanny, and make more money than J did. I pay the bills and taxes on the house. And all I asked for was some respect. My last straw was on Friday, when she went into MY bathroom and reorganized my cabinets. My hair products, medicines, and cleaning supplies were all displaced. She also had the window open without the screen because “she wanted to air out the room”.
I had enough and told J’s mom to leave, that I would put her into a motel for a week and she needed to find other housing plans. J protested and said that his mom was only trying to help, but I have literally pleaded with that woman to not move things around. I followed through and paid for a motel for a week, and J said if she left, we were done. That his mom “didn’t deserve to be treated this way”. I told him to go, and it broke my heart. I gave this man six years and we’re done because I have a boundary.
I have explained my side to most people, and they still think I’m wrong because of the storm that was due to arrive. But it’s not like they were on the streets, they were in a motel, they were safe.
So, AITAH for kicking out my ex and his mom??
