He did it with his back to her so that she thought he actually did it, and she was crushed.
Idk why he is so triggered by a child’s ball being bounced, and idk why she insisted on continuing to bounce it. The whole thing escalated from him asking her to take it to her room, immediately followed by threats of punishment if she didn’t. She then became defensive and defiant. The whole time I was asking him to calm down and hit the brakes, let’s try a different way of handling this than raising your voice and threats. He completely ignored me and this is what it escalated to.
I 100% do not support the way he treated her or talked to her, and I let him know that. He 100% stood by everything he did, and said he would do it all again. I said I’m tired of it and will find somewhere we can go live in peace. He said “Good”. Then came and half-ass apologized to our daughter, who was crying her eyes out in her bed.
I am so tired of it, I hate the way he treats her. I hate the way he won’t try to improve his parenting. I hate the way he is so triggered literally by his child playing. Even if we do move out on our own, she will then have to navigate this without me when she comes to see her father, and I think I’m even more not ok with that. I don’t know what to do.
Am I the asshole for not supporting how he parents and for wanting to move out?
