AITA for telling my flatmate I won’t keep pretending I’m not home to avoid her boyfriend?
So I (20F) live in a student flat with three other people, one of whom is my flatmate Priya.
We’ve always gotten along fine, like we’re not best friends but we’re friendly, we have dinner together sometimes, it’s been a good living situation overall.
The issue is her boyfriend Dan. He started coming over more and more around October and by December he was basically living here.
He doesn’t pay rent, he uses the kitchen constantly, leaves dishes, finishes shared groceries without replacing them, and he’s just always there.
But that’s not even the main thing. The main thing is that whenever I come home and he’s there, Priya gets visibly tense and then later asks me if I could “give them some space.”
At first I just went to my room. Then she started texting me ahead of time asking if I had plans that evening because Dan was coming over.
I said yes a few times even when I didn’t, because it felt easier. But I’ve been doing this for like three months now and I’m in my own flat.
Last week she texted again and I just replied honestly that I didn’t have plans and I’d be home.
She got kind of cold after that and later told me that I “knew what she meant” and that I was being difficult.
I told her I wasn’t going to keep pretending to be unavailble in my own home just so her boyfriend could have the living room. She hasn’t really spoken to me since.
My other flatmates think I was a bit harsh but also agree the situation has gotten out of hand. AITA?
