AITJ for getting mad at my friend for cancelling plans last minute due to an injury she got doing an activity I told her would dangerous.
Me and this girl (both in our early 20s) have known each other since high school and we’ve been pretty close.
I’ve been having a very tough time recently due to personal reasons, she knew about it and so two days ago she suggested I’d join her to do this hiking with her friend group (that I don’t know) in the mountains. She then sent me a crazy long list of stuff I’d have to bring so I spent all yesterday looking in my house for what I had/what I had to go buy, which, for someone who’s depressed, is already a struggle.
The same day i was doing that, she decided to go to another city with a friend to learn how to surf. When she told me about it I discouraged her to do it, first of all because it‘s winter, so it’s very cold in the water, second of all, she is obese and has joints problems so surfing is the type of activity you should take your time to learn, it’s not something you just do without any preparation on a random day (i’ve been practicing windsurfing and have been 5 times national champion of water skiing, so I DEF know what I’m saying) Plus, the fact that we were supposed to do a 10 hour hike in the snow the next day would mean putting her body under additional stress.
Of course she didn’t listen to me, she went surfing and ended up breaking her ankle.
So she contacted me yesterday, after all the effort I put getting everything ready, and told me she wouldn’t be coming because she hurt herself.
I replied to her with a bit of an annoyed/worried tone and explained to her that she should have listened to me and also mentioning how she made me lose a lot of time for nothing.
She then BLOCKED ME on whatsapp, which for me was totally out of the blue cause I literally just stated facts, I didn’t insult her in any way.
I learnt she broke her ankle by seeing her IG stories afterwards and replied to her there, saying that I was sorry about her injury, hoped she’d get back well soon, but at the same time I couldn’t help but confront her about the fact that she blocked me. I was having a positive attitude about it, apologized about the annoyed tone I had before hoping she’d understand my side.
She replied that :
– I wasn’t a doctor so I didn’t know what I was talking about, that it was absolutely an random accident and she had no responsibility in it.
– She is “sick of me always putting my needs first, even when she‘s the one getting physically injured” and that after what happened to her I shouldn’t have even mentioned the effect it had on me. She told me she needed a break from me and that she‘s block me on IG too LOL.
Worth mentioning: She was mostly the one reaching out to me these months cause I explicitly told her I was going through s*** and didn’t have the strength to be present as much or do activities together. We recently only met twice for a coffee where I talked a bit about what was going on in my life. While when she was going through a break up she used to call me and text me all the time for months speaking about him to the point I couldn’t stand it anymore but always supported her so much.
So hearing her talking about me putting my needs first was just crazy.
So, AITJ for getting annoyed about this and telling her how I felt? Should I’ve just shut up since she hurt herself and since what she does is eventually her business?
