WIBTAH for holding my brother to his promise and leaving our mom in his care for the week?

WIBTAH for holding my brother to his promise and leaving our mom in his care for the week?

My brother is pissed and is accusing me trying to ruin his marriage and family. Our mother is has mild dementia and I am her primary caregiver. Last year I asked my brother if he would not mind watching our mom for a week, to celebrate my 10 year anniversary. He said sure, I did remind him throughout the year and each time he said it was no problem.

It seems his wife scheduled something for the same week and my brother told me four days prior that he cannot watch our mom. I told him we had an agreement, but he said his wife planned something important to her and my niece. I by no means trying to belittle that but I asked him a year ago with constant updates to make sure he is was still on board.

Now I am torn, my husband is telling me to drop it and we will just bring our mom along like we always do on our anniversary. I said that should not be, I asked and he said yes. My husband agrees but also said we cannot force him to do what he does not want.

I told my brother he has done nothing for our mom, he or his wife always have an excuse, COVID, family emergency, forgetten event, someone broke in the house. I have let slide many times. At thia point i told him i will be bringing her over.

He is accusing me trying to ruin his marriage, and lording my choice over his head. I don’t feel like asking for a week is much, he is her son and she is his mother. Why am I the only one doing anything?

Idk Maybe I will just do as my husband said.

My brother is pissed and is accusing me trying to ruin his marriage and family. Our mother is has mild dementia and I am her primary caregiver. Last year I asked my brother if he would not mind watching our mom for a week, to celebrate my 10 year anniversary. He said sure, I did remind him throughout the year and each time he said it was no problem.

It seems his wife scheduled something for the same week and my brother told me four days prior that he cannot watch our mom. I told him we had an agreement, but he said his wife planned something important to her and my niece. I by no means trying to belittle that but I asked him a year ago with constant updates to make sure he is was still on board.

Now I am torn, my husband is telling me to drop it and we will just bring our mom along like we always do on our anniversary. I said that should not be, I asked and he said yes. My husband agrees but also said we cannot force him to do what he does not want.

I told my brother he has done nothing for our mom, he or his wife always have an excuse, COVID, family emergency, forgetten event, someone broke in the house. I have let slide many times. At thia point i told him i will be bringing her over.

He is accusing me trying to ruin his marriage, and lording my choice over his head. I don’t feel like asking for a week is much, he is her son and she is his mother. Why am I the only one doing anything?

Idk Maybe I will just do as my husband said.