AITA for Not Wanting to Get Married at My Fiancé’s Family’s Venue?
I (23F) just got engaged to my (24M) Fiancé two months ago. While this has been the happiest moment of my life, it’s also been one of the most stressful. There has been a lot of tension between my parents and I when it comes to certain plans. My parents are usually pretty opinionated about everything, however I thought they would have been a little more supportive for this big moment in our lives.
To preface before I get I to the story, my dream wedding venue is outdoors and rustic.
When it comes to the venue, it’s between two locations, one that my fiancé’s family owns and one that is a very cute local barn. My fiancé’s family’s venue is your average hall, however, it is about a 50-minute drive from us and is not what I had dreamed of for my wedding. It is nice but it doesn’t have an outdoor area and has no windows. His family is generously giving us a family discount that would make it $5000 cheaper than the other location. The other location, however, is only a 7-minute drive from both of our houses and has a beautiful outdoor portion that overlooks a farm with horses. It also has lots of natural light and beauty. Aesthetically it is the wedding venue of my dreams.
Where I am running into some problems is my parents opinionated comment on how “ dumpy” my fiancée familys venue is. While I think it is nice its differently not what I had dreamed but it is significantly cheaper, and it’s my Fiancé top choice, obviously because it’s his familys venue. However my heart is telling me that I will be very sad if I do choose to have our wedding at his familys venue. While I know it will be nice and his family would go above and beyond for us, it is just not what I had ever dreamed. I also feel Some pressure from my parents from all their negative comments. I’m afraid that if I do choose my Fiancés family‘s venue that they will also be making the same comments the day of our wedding.
My Fiancé and I also toured both venues and he loved both of them but felt a very strong emotional connection to his family’s venue and for the price difference this was by far his top choice, but he is ultimately giving me the decision to choose which wedding venue to book.
I am feeling stuck in my decision and feel like an asshole for wanting to choose anything other than My Fiancé‘s family’s venue. What is your opinion should I chose the wedding venue of my dreams or should I chose my fiancé‘s familys venue?
AITAH?
EDIT:
We will be having our ceremony in our hometown at our church. This is a non-negotiable. My fiancé’s family’s reception venue is a 50-minute drive from the cemetery and is generally not in an area where anyone lives. The barn venue is less than three minutes from the church and is in the general area where everyone lives.
