AITAH for going off on my husband because he wont let me buy something that would make my life significantly easier and its my own money
Our son has some health issues that require a lot of overnight care. Hes almost a year old now and since he came home from the hospital Ive been the one handling nights almost entirely by myself. My husband helps with bedtime but after that its me. Every wake up every feed every time he needs to be held upright for his reflux thats all me. He wakes up anywhere from five to eight times a night depending on the night and I am genuinely losing my mind from the sleep deprivation.
I had been using this old recliner in his room to do the overnight feeds and hold him upright after. It wasnt great but it worked. Then it broke. Like fully broken cant sit in it anymore broken.
So I found a really good nursing glider online. Its specifically designed for exactly what I need. High arms so I dont drop him when I start dozing off a smooth rocking motion that calms him down and its easy to get out of without waking him which if youve ever tried to transfer a sleeping baby you know thats worth its weight in gold. It was on sale for about 500 bucks.
I sent my husband the link and he said we should find something cheaper. I spent days looking. Secondhand ones were either trashed or missing parts. The cheaper new ones didnt have the arm height I need or the gliding motion. This was the best option.
He said no again.
So Ive been doing nights sitting on the floor of my sons room or standing and rocking him for sometimes 45 minutes at a time multiple times a night. My back is destroyed. I fell asleep standing up two nights ago and almost dropped him.
I brought it up again last night and he said hes tired of hearing about it. Thats when I lost it. I told him hes not the one up all night. Hes not the one whose body is falling apart. Hes not the one who almost dropped our baby because hes so exhausted he cant stay conscious. And the money Im asking to spend is mine. From my savings. That I have been carefully budgeting because I dont go back to work until next year.
He said I was being mean and that money is tight and I need to understand that. But he just bought himself new golf clubs last month. I didnt say anything about that because its his money and I figured the same respect would go both ways.
Apparently not.
AITAH?
