AITAH for giving my wife short and direct answers after being rejected everyday for 2 months?
My wife 42 female and I 45 male have been married 18 years and we have 3 kids. Our marriage has always been strong and up until 2 months ago we had a steady healthy sexual relationship.
However, in these last two months something has changed and every time I try to initiate sex my wife sighs loudly and says either “I’m tired, I don’t feel good“ and once she even said she was busy cleaning out her work email inbox. I have tried many times talking to her about this but she just blows it off and says I’m making a big deal out of nothing.
I don’t think she’s cheating as she works from home and only goes out with her friends once or twice a month. I have asked her if she would like to get out more or if being home all the time is taking it’s toll on her but she says she prefers to be at home. I do all the cooking, dishes, laundry, trash and I change all the bed sheets in the house so I don’t think it’s a situation where she’s overwhelmed with housework or resentful towards me for not doing my share. Now to the issue, lately my wife noticed that my communication with her has become very brief (one word answers) and I’ve been more distance from her.
For example, I used to wake her up in the morning and stay in the room to talk with her but now I simply open the door and tell her it’s time to get up and then close the door and walk away . She confronted me about this last night and I said I’m simply giving her the same energy and attention she’s giving me and she blew up saying I was an AH and trying to say that she isn’t required to have sex with me and I can’t use that to treat her poorly. I personally don’t think I’m the AH and that my reaction has been normal given the circumstances but I wanted to ask Reddit in case I’m not seeing something. So am I the AH?
