AITAH for leaving wife at home after she revealed that she was going to wear white to my brother’s wedding?
So my wife and brother’s wife don’t get along. My wife has a bit of temper but my SIL isn’t a saint as well. However, I was never going to let my wife pull something at the wedding which she tried to wear a white dress. I explicitly told her to not even think about it. She did it once no doubt she’d do it again. She can be that pity.
She said she wouldn’t “stoop,, to sil’s level and do it although she was mad I was just a guest at my brother’s wedding, and urged me to not let it slide. I told her that if she even tried to wear white then I wouldn’t let her go through with it. She bought a black dress and said she’d wear it at the wedding. Amd I believed her.
As we were preparing to go, she comes downstairs wearing a white strap dress. I lost it and asked wth was wrong with her. She said I wouldn’t understand and that I shouldn’t involve myself in women’s disagreements. I told her to just stop and changed or I wouldn’t take her with me. She argued about returning the black dress because it was too tight which was true but I’m sure this was deliberate move on her part. She tried to get me to let it go as we were late for the wedding but I insisted she change. I told her she was ruining this for MY BROTHER not just SIL. She refused, I called her petty then left.
I went without her and although everyone was asking about her, they understood why she didn’t come (they assumed it’s because of her beef with SIL). I found about 11 texts all containing choice words directed at me (and SIL) she went to stay with her sister who got hereelf involved and called me and my family toxic and abusive. Mom heard and the shitshow began. Thankfully, Brother and SIL don’t know what’s going on although Mom says they deserve to know what type of person my wife is. Now I’m stuck betwen family and my wife who refuses to come saying I need to “make it right” whatever that means.
My question is Aitah for not letting her go to the wedding wearing white? Should I have just left this between her and SIL? I did this for my brother.
