AITAH for basically telling my ex that I would choose my Girl BF over her if given the choice again?
I(32M) have had a best friend (31F) basically since diapers. We were neighbours, and we went to the same schools all our childhood, then attended the same university.
She did not have the best home life, and that’s all I am going to say on that, since it isn’t my story to tell. But that meant that I was the closest person to her all her life. I still am.
When we were 14 she came out to me as a lesbian, and I was the only person who knew until 4 years ago. She had to deal with a lot of things to be able to live her authentic life.
When we were freshly out of college, I was seriously dating a woman, let’s call her M.
At first M didn’t have a problem with my best friend, but once we started talking marriage, she switched up. And it’s not like I was ditching her to spend time with my best friend, I was meeting said friend maybe once a week/10 days, while I was meeting M every day.
She got jealous, gave me an ultimatum: wither I go no contact with my best friend or we break up, I broke up with her.
Fast foreward to last weekend, one of our mutual friends got married, and we were all there, me and my long term GF, best friend and her wife, and M with her BF.
I was polite, said hello and just moved on. M cornered me later when I was alone, and it basically boiled to her asking if I knew my best friend was a lesbian when we broke up, I said yes, she was angry I didn’t tell her, because that would have helped our relationship, I said I was not going to out my best friend just to appease her. A bit of back and forth, and I basically said what is in the title. She stormed off, and has been telling people that I am an AH, and that apparently I am in love with my best friend and just stringing poor women along because I can’t have her.
Just for the sake of clarity: I am not in love with my best friend, I am head over heels in love with my GF, we have been together for 6 years, and the only reason we are not married is because she doesn’t want to get married.
So AITAH?
