AITA for uninviting my soon to be SIL from my wedding and all other events that i host after she tried to “one-up” my son’s potential autism diagnosis??
This is absolutely insane so listen up
I (42M) have always just tolerated my future Sister-in-Law (48F). She is the definition of a one-upper. If you’ve been to Tenerife, she’s been to Eleven-erife. If someone sneezes on TV, she catches a cold. She’s that type of woman. She has a desperate need for attention and a very loose relationship with the truth to put it mildly.
I host a monthly family BBQ for the family and friends and yesterday was the day. Everyone was talking between themselves and my fiancé and I were quietly talking to my soon to be Mother-in-Law, telling her that the development specialist thinks my toddler son might be autistic and we’re starting the diagnostic process. It was a sensitive, heavy moment for us.
Suddenly, my SIL screams, “TWINS!!!!”
The entire yard went silent. She shouted, “I’m also autistic! I was recently diagnosed! Your son and I are basically twins, but mine is probably worse” is what she said. I can’t remember verbatim but you get the idea.
I lost it, but I stayed calm and firm. I told her flat out that she isn’t autistic and she needs to stop using “diagnoses” as excuses for her constant lying. I then spent a few minutes listing every lie she had told the family in just the last week. I told her if she needs attention, we’re happy to listen, but we’re done with the fiction. The lies are insane.
She. lost. her. Damn. mind. This 48-year-old woman child punched me in the chest. I was shocked for a second and then just laughed in her face and told her my toddler hits harder than that.
She then told my fiancé (her sister) that I was cheating on her. Que my fiancé’s laughter in her face. it was just so pathetic. Her own mother told her to stop embarrassing herself. I told her she needed to leave, she was uninvited from the wedding, and she wasn’t welcome back until she’d had professional therapy. On her way out, she kicked the door and started screaming because surprise, surprise, she “hurt her foot.”
Most of the family thinks I handled it well, but my FIL thinks I should have pulled her aside privately. Also, her husband called me later to chew me out for “bullying” her.
I feel like you can’t “privately” address someone who just screamed “TWINS” at a BBQ? Aita?
