AITA? My husband (33M) and I (31F) had a friend over for dinner, and we cooked a bunch of homemade food so our friend could take some back to her husband and neighbor, who is sick.

AITA? My husband (33M) and I (31F) had a friend over for dinner, and we cooked a bunch of homemade food so our friend could take some back to her husband and neighbor, who is sick.

We are also the type of people who tend to make enough for leftovers when we cook so that we don’t have to cook every single day. Our roommate (27F) came home from work while we were almost done cooking, and got to talking to our friend for a good 15 minutes or so.

The conversation didn’t seem to be dying down by the time the food was ready, and it felt rude to sit down and eat without her while she was sitting there talking in the conversation, so we offered to have her join us. Hours later, we packed some food for our friend to take home to share with her husband and neighbor. She felt bad about taking so much time, so we assured her we had plenty of leftovers so she wouldn’t feel bad.

Our roommate overheard and said, “I’ll help eat the leftovers since you have plenty, I have no problem helping!” We didn’t know what to say without making our friend feel awkward other than, “sure, you can help us eat leftovers!”The next morning, we left town for a day to visit family.

When we came back, we were ready to eat some leftovers, and couldn’t find any anywhere, even though we had enough for at least 6 meals. Our roommate came by and was like, “by the way, I took the Tupperware containers you put the away to work and meal prepped, so I have food for the rest of the week!” We were very surprised that we didn’t even get any food left behind for us, and a little disappointed because when we said, “sure” to her helping with leftovers, we didn’t think she would take everything we packed up all at once to work and not leave a single thing for us. In addition, we also said she could help us with leftovers because we didn’t know what else to say after we just offered some to our friend. However, we were thinking she would take some out of the containers for each meal, not grab all our containers and take them to work in a single go.

Here’s where we might be the TAH: is it our fault because we didn’t specifically clarify that we also wanted some to ourselves? We didn’t think we had to clarify because she knows we always have leftovers for ourselves to eat during the week, but maybe we should have? We just thought it was implied and common courtesy to at least ask us, but maybe us saying she could help us eat the leftovers was taken to mean that she was doing us a favor or something?